Our modern world is not without its challenges. Most of us work long days, have multiple demands on our time and are moving at breakneck speed. Is it any wonder, then, that relationships are difficult to maintain?
Esther Perel, a New York-based marriage and family therapist, speaks and consults regularly on the topic of relationships and sexual intelligence. One of her observations when exploring the concept of modern love relationships, is that there is a sense of anxiety for people seeking a long-term partner.
When we look for a life mate we have high expectations that they will fill all of our many needs. In her blog, Perel reflects upon the unrealistic wedding vows being made by new couples making promises that no one could realistically keep, effectively setting them up for failure. It’s hardly surprising that if we expect our partner to provide friendship, protection, compassion, reassurance, sexual excitement and financial partnership, we may be disappointed.